The Benefits of Playful Parenting

The Benefits of Playful Parenting

Raising tweens and teens can be the most challenging and also the most rewarding experience we can be part of. I have the pleasure of welcoming Colette Reilley back to talk about playful parenting. Yes, those two words can co-exist. 

During this conversation, we take a deep dive into:  

  • Listening isn’t just about your children listening, it’s also about parents listening to their children;
  • The tweens and teen years, growth, challenges and parenting through this time; and
  • Helping our children embrace who they are and on the flip side, embracing who are children are.

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

  • When we create the space for our children to get curious about their lives, their experiences and their choices, they are less likely to look elsewhere for that space;
  • The tween and teen years bring about many changes for both the children and the parents, understanding these changes are normal and NOT personal makes the challenging times more understandable;
  • Helping our children embrace who they are may be uncomfortable and challenging for us, that is a great opportunity to explore why and where it’s a challenge for you. It’s a time for personal growth for parents as well; and
  • Our children are more okay than we may give them credit for, stand back a little, give them boundaries but make sure you also give them room to grow.

Parenting is fluid and is about connection and curiosity. If you are willing to show up and dance in the moment, and connect human to human parenting can be a wonderful thing. 

To listen to this weeks episode:

https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-benefits-of-playful-parenting/id1438553484?i=1000429913578&mt=2

https://thecproflife.podbean.com/e/the-benefits-of-playful-parenting/

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

To reach Colette:

https://www.facebook.com/beworklifehappy/

Potential in Me:

http://potentialin.me

 

The Changing Relationship With Self and Others Through The Ebb and Flow of Life

The Changing Relationship With Self and Others Through The Ebb and Flow of Life

Happy Friday! You are in for a treat today. The conversation I have with my guest Shenan Charania in this episode is such a powerful one. The connection, ease and flow were amazing. We talk about the changing relationship with self and others through the ebb and flow of life.

Shenan’s life journey is so interesting. Currently, he is a transformative coach who works with inspirational leaders. He has a lovely presence which I think you will hear.

During this conversation, we take a deep dive into:  

  • How looking for a sense of belonging led to being involved with gang life for over ten years and the realization that a sense of belonging doesn’t come from others, things, experiences;
  • Distorted perspectives and how they play out in life;
  • The journey of self during the journey of life. From the gangster lifestyle to owning a Tim Horton’s to being a coach; and
  • Shame and guilt for past behaviours and choices don’t serve you.

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

  • Distorted thinking leads to distorted actions. When someone has a shift in perspective, relationships change in immeasurable ways;
  • Our own interpretation of the past changes as we evolve in our own personal growth;
  • People spend so much time, money and effort searching for the answers to who am I and where do I belong from others, books, drugs, alcohol, food, etc. These efforts are futile, it is only when we shift the direction of our search inwards will we find the answers; and
  • The most beautiful relationship you will ever be in is the one with yourself.

I enjoy reading your emails and appreciate your feedback.

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You.

To listen to this weeks episode:

https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/changing-relationship-self-others-through-ebb-flow/id1438553484?i=1000429418005&mt=2

https://thecproflife.podbean.com/

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

To reach Shenan:

https://www.shenancharania.com/

The Secret To A Healthy And Happy Romantic Relationship

The Secret To A Healthy And Happy Romantic Relationship

I’m sure many of you read “The Secret To A Healthy And Happy Romantic Relationship” and thought yeah right. If that was you (and even if it wasn’t) I hope you take the time to listen to this week’s podcast episode. It’s an inspiring one.

Continuing this months theme of relationships I chat with Julie Downer and Michael Fall about the ease and playfulness of their relationship. They are a blended family with five kids. Michael is a fitness, nutrition and wellness coach and Julie is a nutrition coach and Veterinarian. With Michael and Julie talking about relationships is fun, I’m totally inspired by these two lovely souls. This was a really fun conversation, although I have to admit, at times I felt like I was eavesdropping on their conversation 🙂  Michael and Julie shared with such openness and honesty. I love their wisdom and their presence.

During this conversation, we take a deep dive into:  

  • The power when we embrace our individual wholeness within a romantic relationship;
  • How conflict arises in relationships that come from having unspoken expectations;
  • Relationships can be enjoyable and easy, even when there are conflict and low moods; and
  • Parenting and blending families with grace.   

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

  • When you try to analyze or conceptualize the actions, interactions and moments in your relationship it clouds our thinking and creates tension;
  • Happiness does not come from another person. If you are looking to your partner to make you happy, you will miss the beautiful place where happiness and an effortless relationship exists – inside;
  • Life is meant to flow, as a result, as do our relationships. Recognizing this, and knowing you don’t have to fix anything when you or your partner are in a low mood lets the natural flow; and
  • When we let go of needing to control, conceptualize or fix and embrace who we are as an individual within a relationship – it can be fun and effortless. What a beautiful and inspiring thought.  

I hope you enjoy and please feel free to reach out with any questions or comments. I’m sure Julie and Michael would be happy to circle back.

To listen on iTunes:

https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-secret-to-a-healthy-and-happy-romantic-relationship/id1438553484?i=1000428910432&mt=2

To listen on Podbean:

https://thecproflife.podbean.com/e/the-secret-to-a-healthy-and-happy-romantic-relationship/

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

To reach Michael and Julie:

michael@insightbasedcoaching.com

The Secret to Successful Relationships Starts With You

The Secret to Successful Relationships Starts With You

New podcast episode and a new direction 🙂

I’ve decided to change things up in the new year. Moving forward I am going to try a more thematic approach. So each month, my conversations and guests will focus on a particular theme. I’m really excited about this shift! I’m starting with the basics – for the next month, my conversations will be focused on relationships.

Relationships are such an important aspect of every part of our lives and we are going to cover the relationships with self, romantic relationships, parenting and in the workplace. I can’t wait to share these conversations with you. In this episode, I welcome my friend, fellow coach and business owner Oscar Licon. The thing that has always stood out for me in my conversations with Oscar is his beautiful presence. Don’t take my word for it, listen to the episode and experience it for yourself.

Among other things, Oscar and I chat about:  

  • The importance of presence in all relationships;
  • What you are bringing to the relationship is based your state of mind and the quality of relationship you have with yourself;
  • The importance of understanding your experience of life and your relationships comes from within; and
  • The beauty and space for growth the ebb and flow of relationships.

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

  • Our experience of life is based on the quality of relationship we have with each other and more so with ourselves;
  • When we are in our heads, caught up in a thought storm we don’t really notice things and people;
  • If you approach your relationships with curiosity and wonder, rather than judgement or criticism, you will be in a beautiful space where there is infinite potential;
  • When you are connecting with another person, do so to understand how they see their world, doing so will deepen your connection; and
  • If you are in a stressful or tumultuous relationship with yourself, this will affect every relationship you have. So fall completely and utterly in love with the amazing being that you are. 

Please continue to send me your feedback and questions, they help me serve you in my conversations. By the way, I’m loving the community we are creating. If you enjoyed this episode I would be really grateful if you could leave a review on iTunes. 

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

To listen to this weeks episode:

https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/secret-to-successful-relationships-starts-relationship/id1438553484?i=1000428521755&mt=2

https://thecproflife.podbean.com/e/the-secret-to-successful-relationships-starts-with-the-relationship-with-yourself/

To reach Oscar:

liconaragonez@yahoo.com.mx

Parenting With An Open Mind

Parenting With An Open Mind

“We all have innate health and innate wellbeing at our core.

We were born with it and it stays with us for life.”

Parenting is beautiful, hard, incredibly rewarding, frustrating, and the most powerful role you will ever have in your life. After a two week break due to a death in the family, I’m happy to release a new podcast episode. This conversation with the beautiful Mandy Spray is a must listen to for all you parents, parents to be, or those working with children.

Mandy is a certified Innate Wellbeing Facilitator and a Clarity Coach and Trainer. Mandy was one of my mentors when I did the facilitator training at Innate Wellbeing. She has such a lovely presence, and her wisdom whispers through her words and presence.

On today’s episode we discuss:

  • Why it’s important to have conversations with parents when working with children. From my experience, it’s necessary for them to understand what we are sharing.
  • Society as a whole will benefit when we stop seeing teenagers as a problem.
  • The science behind what is happening as our children progress through the teenage years.
  • Blame, shame and guilt should not have a seat at the parenting table.

This conversation was filled with some many good takeaways. Not just for parents but for everyone. As Mandy said, this understanding is the same for everyone. I love Mandy’s gentle way of going deeper into a conversation. This is where we breakthrough what appears to be happening and get to the heart of the matter.  

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

  • We often create stories about our children and then look for evidence to support the story. When we discover how the mind works we see how often we get caught up in our own thinking.
  • What we think is going on and what is actually happening are often very different.
  • Parents are human too! Taking the time and space to let our minds settle, just as we ask our children to do is a step towards a more peaceful and loving relationship; and finally
  • Lead with love.

If you enjoy these conversations please feel free to share it with friends. Also, I would be grateful if you could leave a review on iTunes. If you have any comments or feedback please don’t hesitate to reach out.

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

The link to today’s episode:

https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/parenting-with-an-open-mind/id1438553484?i=1000425353649&mt=2

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-vcyh9-a146f0

To get in touch with Mandy:

http://www.mandyspray.com/

You can find Mandy on FB:

https://www.facebook.com/MandySprayCoaching/

The Cost of Expectations

The Cost of Expectations

Unmet expectations are the root cause of so much conflict, disappointment, anger, and the reason for failed relationships – both personally and professionally. I have seen this with business leaders, parents, couples, and individuals I work with. What sort of expectations do you have of your partner, your children, your friends, your employees, your employer…yourself? Maybe you aren’t even aware of your expectations, but as humans we all have them.

Expectations quickly become problems when we hold ourselves, and others, to them without a clear understanding of what those expectations are, and both a clear understanding and agreement of all parties involved. I call this the expectation box.

Much conflict and broken relationships could be mended with the management of expectations, both of others as well as ourselves. 

“Expectations feed frustration. It’s an unhealthy attachment to people, things and outcomes we wish we could control, but don’t.”  Steve Maraboli

The reality of life is that we see the world through our own filter. No two filters are the same, there is a layer of personal thought and experience in between our personal lens and reality. No-one is immune from this.

When we understand the power of our own lens, and that our thoughts about how someone should be, think, or act is based on our own personal thinking life becomes easier. We are the creators of our individual reality. Expecting others to see life through our lens is setting ourselves up for disappointment and conflict.

This might be hard to hear, but you can’t change someone with your expectations. When we drop the expectation box and replace it with connected conversations and realistic expectations relationships become so much more real.

When we accept others for who they truly are, we also are more likely to show up in a more genuine way. Accepting people for who they are – embracing who we are.

It’s empowering to take responsibility for our own lives, our own choices and give those around us the opportunity to do the same. This is where life becomes fun, challenging, playful, frustrating. We are the creators of our own reality.

I love when my clients see this. Parent-child relationships, couples, personal and professional relationships all benefit when they stop trying to ‘change’ the other person, ditch the assumptions that the other person should know what they are thinking, expecting, etc. It also diminishes the notion of blame or responsibility on others.  

What about you? Do you have an expectation box – with yourself, with your partner, with your children, friends, etc? Are you comfortable having a conversation with them about what you expect, a clear understanding of what that entails and agreement on their part?

The reality is that conflict, frustration, anger, hurt, etc. could be drastically minimized if we exchanged our expectations for an actual agreement. An agreement creates clarity, a common ground, and understanding of expectations. 

Thought Bomb Moment: Think of a person or relationship that is causing you to feel unsettled, angry, judged, wronged, etc., ask yourself, what’s in your expectation box? Do you think the other party clearly understands your expectations? Are they in agreement? If not, maybe it’s time to ditch the box. Trust me, life flows so much easier when we let go of the box.

Alternatively, you can take your expectations and turn them into agreements. This is a fabulous way of taking relationships to a deeper level, one based on clarity, a common understanding, and agreement. The conflict, hurt, anger, and resentment will be replaced by clarity and a commonplace to move forward from.

Be well. Be present. Be you.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

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