My Mental Health ROCKS!

My Mental Health ROCKS!

Hello my beautiful souls. Today I am so happy to share a beautiful conversation that everyone can benefit from listening to. I have a lovely chat with the founders of the My Mental Health Rocks campaign. This is a topic near and dear to my heart, I see the difference this conversation makes every day with others. Co-founders Leanne Macdonald and Julie Brown both work in the area of mental health and wellbeing. They are blazing the trail with this campaign. Their passion is evident and the difference they make in the lives of others is admirable. 

In this episode we talk about:

  • What the ‘My Mental Health Rocks’ initiative is;
  • Raising awareness about mental health takes a village; 
  • Teaching versus exploring with children and youth; and
  • Children are never broken and don’t need to be fixed.  

My mental health rocks initiative really drives home the point that it takes a village. When that perspective is embraced amazing things can happen. I think the combination of Kids being Kind magazine and my mental health rocks initiative has the potential to make a huge impact. 

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

  • Teachers already have so many demands placed upon them. Adding the responsibility of emotional learning neither reasonable nor fair. Of course, there is so much emotional learning that already goes on in day to day life at school, but that should be based on what a child already knows.  
  • There is a difference between teaching versus exploring. Teachers have a set curriculum they have to follow. This initiative focuses on exploration – which is so fun, insightful and life-changing;
  • Teachers have an incredible impact and responsibility. As Julie mentioned, everyone can remember a teacher, whether that be because of a negative or a life-changing experience. Teachers are definitely a crucial part of creating the future of our children; and
  • This message is one every person needs to hear: you are not broken, life is limitless when it comes to potential and a reminder when you are struggling, whatever you are going through is a temporary experience. Knowing this makes life flow in a much more natural and less stressful way. 

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You. 

To listen to the podcast on Podbean:

https://thecproflife.podbean.com/e/my-mental-health-rocks-episode-33/ 

To listen to the podcast on iTunes:

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/my-mental-health-rocks-episode-33/id1438553484?i=1000448770991

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

To find out more about My Mental Health Rocks:

https://www.mymentalhealthrocks.com/

https://www.facebook.com/mymentalhealthrocks/

To find out more about Kids Being Kind Magazine:

https://www.kidsbeingkindmagazine.com/

The Benefits of Playful Parenting

The Benefits of Playful Parenting

Raising tweens and teens can be the most challenging and also the most rewarding experience we can be part of. I have the pleasure of welcoming Colette Reilley back to talk about playful parenting. Yes, those two words can co-exist. 

During this conversation, we take a deep dive into:  

  • Listening isn’t just about your children listening, it’s also about parents listening to their children;
  • The tweens and teen years, growth, challenges and parenting through this time; and
  • Helping our children embrace who they are and on the flip side, embracing who are children are.

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

  • When we create the space for our children to get curious about their lives, their experiences and their choices, they are less likely to look elsewhere for that space;
  • The tween and teen years bring about many changes for both the children and the parents, understanding these changes are normal and NOT personal makes the challenging times more understandable;
  • Helping our children embrace who they are may be uncomfortable and challenging for us, that is a great opportunity to explore why and where it’s a challenge for you. It’s a time for personal growth for parents as well; and
  • Our children are more okay than we may give them credit for, stand back a little, give them boundaries but make sure you also give them room to grow.

Parenting is fluid and is about connection and curiosity. If you are willing to show up and dance in the moment, and connect human to human parenting can be a wonderful thing. 

To listen to this weeks episode:

https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-benefits-of-playful-parenting/id1438553484?i=1000429913578&mt=2

https://thecproflife.podbean.com/e/the-benefits-of-playful-parenting/

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

To reach Colette:

https://www.facebook.com/beworklifehappy/

Potential in Me:

http://potentialin.me

 

Parenting With An Open Mind

Parenting With An Open Mind

“We all have innate health and innate wellbeing at our core.

We were born with it and it stays with us for life.”

Parenting is beautiful, hard, incredibly rewarding, frustrating, and the most powerful role you will ever have in your life. After a two week break due to a death in the family, I’m happy to release a new podcast episode. This conversation with the beautiful Mandy Spray is a must listen to for all you parents, parents to be, or those working with children.

Mandy is a certified Innate Wellbeing Facilitator and a Clarity Coach and Trainer. Mandy was one of my mentors when I did the facilitator training at Innate Wellbeing. She has such a lovely presence, and her wisdom whispers through her words and presence.

On today’s episode we discuss:

  • Why it’s important to have conversations with parents when working with children. From my experience, it’s necessary for them to understand what we are sharing.
  • Society as a whole will benefit when we stop seeing teenagers as a problem.
  • The science behind what is happening as our children progress through the teenage years.
  • Blame, shame and guilt should not have a seat at the parenting table.

This conversation was filled with some many good takeaways. Not just for parents but for everyone. As Mandy said, this understanding is the same for everyone. I love Mandy’s gentle way of going deeper into a conversation. This is where we breakthrough what appears to be happening and get to the heart of the matter.  

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

  • We often create stories about our children and then look for evidence to support the story. When we discover how the mind works we see how often we get caught up in our own thinking.
  • What we think is going on and what is actually happening are often very different.
  • Parents are human too! Taking the time and space to let our minds settle, just as we ask our children to do is a step towards a more peaceful and loving relationship; and finally
  • Lead with love.

If you enjoy these conversations please feel free to share it with friends. Also, I would be grateful if you could leave a review on iTunes. If you have any comments or feedback please don’t hesitate to reach out.

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

The link to today’s episode:

https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/parenting-with-an-open-mind/id1438553484?i=1000425353649&mt=2

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-vcyh9-a146f0

To get in touch with Mandy:

http://www.mandyspray.com/

You can find Mandy on FB:

https://www.facebook.com/MandySprayCoaching/

Wisdom, Parenting and The Power of Deep Listening

Wisdom, Parenting and The Power of Deep Listening

What a wonderful conversation I had in this episode with Dr. Jack Pransky, a Three Principles Author, Trainer and Practitioner. Jack’s approach is the same but his work spans across many disciplines including prevention, parenting, health and wellness. I admire Jack and often use his books in my coaching or when I’m working with a group of children.

His passion for spreading his message is evident in his work, his writing and most importantly, in his presence. I had the pleasure of attending a workshop led by Jack earlier this year where I learned so much about the power of deep listening. The love and passion he has for what he does comes through in his books and is even more evident when you meet him in person. I hope you enjoy this episode. 

In this conversation we discuss:

  • challenges and approaches to parenting;
  • the power of deep listening;
  • how we create our experience; and
  • the power of being aligned with our own wisdom.

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

  • Wisdom is within each and every one of us, it’s like a quiet, gentle nudge;
  • Deep listening goes far beyond the words being spoken and being heard, embracing this will change your relationships. We are either listening or talking if we are talking we aren’t listening;
  • There is a lot of information to be found in being curious, especially when you are having trouble with someone;
  • Discipline that comes from a place of anger never achieves a good long-term outcome; and
  • Children learn from what we do more than what we say – a great question to ask yourself before you respond “what is my child learning from me? What do I want them to learn?

There were so many golden nuggets in this conversation. Parents, teachers or anyone working with children will find so many takeaways from this episode. I’m looking forward to the audio version of Jack’s books. I always find something new in them when I re-read them or use them in coaching sessions. I highly recommend all of Jack’s books. Links to the ones I use or share most often are included in the show notes. I hope you enjoyed this conversation.

If you enjoy the show please share and I would be grateful if you could leave a review on iTunes. If you have any comments or feedback please don’t hesitate to reach out.

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You.

Much love, Jessie-Lynn

https://thecproflife.podbean.com/e/wisdom-parenting-and-the-power-of-deep-listening/

To find out more about Jack:

http://www.healthrealize.com/

Books mentioned in the show:

What is a Thought

https://www.amazon.ca/What-Thought-Lot-Jack-Pransky/dp/1936943034/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1542344073&sr=8-1&keywords=what+is+a+thought&dpID=51BUZYmCbuL&preST=_SX198_BO1,204,203,200_QL40_&dpSrc=srch

What is Wisdom

https://www.amazon.ca/What-Wisdom-Where-Do-Find/dp/1517513839/ref=pd_sim_14_1?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1517513839&pd_rd_r=bae7a903-e95b-11e8-9f0a-0f336f5f387a&pd_rd_w=M0zys&pd_rd_wg=LJDHu&pf_rd_i=desktop-dp-sims&pf_rd_m=A3DWYIK6Y9EEQB&pf_rd_p=f2db799a-cb6a-4ff5-b84b-b317891b94a8&pf_rd_r=9YWQA4S582K2JNZTNXNB&pf_rd_s=desktop-dp-sims&pf_rd_t=40701&psc=1&refRID=9YWQA4S582K2JNZTNXNB

Parenting From The Heart

https://www.amazon.ca/Parenting-Heart-Guide-Essence-Inside-Out/dp/1927360641/ref=sr_1_3?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1542344165&sr=1-3&keywords=parenting+from+the+heart&dpID=5180U6KT2iL&preST=_SY264_BO1,204,203,200_QL40_&dpSrc=srch

 

Wisdom Within Our Children

Wisdom Within Our Children

Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.” Chinese Proverb

My son came home from summer camp this week and complained about another boy in the group. It was the same conversation we had every day when I picked him up.

After dinner, we went for a walk and he brought up the little boy at summer camp again. I asked him to tell me something nice about this boy. He thought about it for a moment and told me that he was kind to a girl who was sad. After a few moments, he added a few more things to the ‘nice list’.

I asked him how it felt for him when he talked about the things that were wrong with this boy, and alternatively how it felt when he talked about the things on the nice list. He told me it felt better when he thought about the nice list. I explained that was his inner wisdom guiding him, showing him that focusing on the good things was much better than focusing on the bad. There is so much information in a feeling, not just for children but for all human beings.

We all have this wisdom. Some call it intuition, some call it a gut feeling or reaction, a sixth sense, or their guardian angel. It’s a gentle nudge (and at times not so gentle). It is our innate wisdom guiding us, like a lighthouse. Shining the light to guide us to wisdom. When we get quiet, that wisdom speaks to us, guides us. It’s a fabulous thing to teach our children. It’s a fabulous thing for all of us to understand. 

Have you ever felt that gentle nudge? Often we will try and rationalize away the wisdom. But just like my son, the right decision came with a good feeling.

As a parent I want him to learn about this wisdom now, to tap into it and listen to it as he goes through his life. Particularly as he approaches the teenage years when he will be faced with many challenging decisions. I don’t want to give my son a fish, I want to teach him how to fish.

Thought Bomb Moment: is there a conversation you have had with your kids where you could have pointed them to their wisdom? It’s never too late. Keep talking to them, keep listening to them. Keep pointing them to the lighthouse within. Our innate wisdom is always with us. Maybe there is an opportunity for you to listen to that gentle nudge. It’s never too late.

Be well. Be present. Be You.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

Perfect Just as You Are

Perfect Just as You Are

“Mirror, mirror on the wall…
It doesn’t matter if I’m short or tall…
It only matters who I am inside…
Blue eyes, brown eyes, black or green…
What makes me most beautiful cannot be seen…
When you look at me, don’t judge me by my parts…
The most beautiful thing about me is my heart.”

I absolutely LOVE working with children and teens, their beautiful minds and big hearts warm my soul. This past month I have been working with a teenager who came to me heartbroken, feeling (and I quote) “worthless, stupid, ugly, and will never be popular.”

Hearing a child talk this way makes my stomach churn in a million different directions. It’s not a new story. I’ve heard it with many other young (and older) clients. The story doesn’t discriminate by gender, age, skin colour, what a person looks like or social status.

It took a couple of meetings for this beautiful soul to share more of her story with me – none of which I will share here. Suffice it to say her story contains characters who are mean, who bully, a family that works really hard to provide, but are ‘busy’ and a young girl with a lot of time to figure life out on her own.

She has until recently, been filling that time on the internet, on Snapchat, on Instagram and watching Riverdale and a few other shows that seem popular with teenagers.

She like many other young adults, had been using these venues as a platform to gauge her popularity, to gain acceptance from her peers, as a learning tool on how to engage, how to dress, what is the ‘in’ thing to do and as a source of validation of her self-worth and her place in this world. The problem was it was making her feel horrible.

Her parents thought I could ‘fix’ her. When I told them there was nothing to fix they were skeptical. I asked them to give us time.

During our conversations, I asked her why she continued to engage when she was having such intense negative feelings. Her response was “because everyone else is doing it.” My initial reaction was to get her to see how unhealthy it was to keep doing something that felt wrong, that made her feel bad and make bad choices. That the opinion of others didn’t define who she was.

I wanted to tell her that she wasn’t broken, there was nothing to fix, what a bright, caring and loving person she was, but it wasn’t the time. I knew that wouldn’t help her at that moment. I had to let go of my own agenda, my own beliefs and listen. Really listen, and just listen.

Thought Bomb Moment: When we listen, we give our children the space to explore, to look deep within themselves and the stories they have come to accept as truth, we also give them the opportunity to work through their own feelings. Doing so helps them realize their own resilience and well-being.

We shared some beautiful conversations about how human experience works and where our feelings come from. I love that kids get this so quickly. It’s an easy mistake to believe that the number of followers or likes a post gets on social media reflects something more meaningful, or that self-worth, love, and acceptance come from an experience, other people, money, etc. In reality, none of this is true.

Everyone is born whole and complete. There is only one of you in this entire Universe. You are unique and one of a kind. There is no person or experience that can take away from your innate resilience, your significance. All the feelings of love, self-worth, and validation come from within. The only requirement is a heartbeat.

We spent time uncovering who she was at this point in her life, what brought her good feelings and what thoughts were behind the feelings she was having…there is so much information in the feeling!

She really blossomed during our time together. I was so honoured to receive a lovely drawing from her today. She sent me a beautiful picture of a heart with the words “I am a heartbeat, I am love, I am me and that is beautiful. I am perfect just as I am.”

Some parents think as our children grow that they need us less. I would argue that they need us more. Our children are growing up in a much different world with the internet and social media. Helping our children understand that they will never find validation, love, acceptance, etc. from an external source (friends, alcohol, drugs, etc) and encourage them to look inward changes everything.

When they understand that all the answers they need are within themselves, within the feelings (a built-in GPS) – they are much more likely to trust their inner wisdom, to look inward for solutions, and to go through the ebb and flow of life with grace and love.

With this in mind, I invite you to connect with your kids, listen to them. Have beautiful conversations about social media, friendships, their feelings, and more importantly, their innate resilience and wholeness, their beautiful space in this Universe.

Be well. Be present. Be you.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

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