The Power of Presence

The Power of Presence

“Life is available only in the present moment.”
― Thich Nhat Hanh
I’ve had a lot of conversations lately with individuals, parents, organizations and individuals who are struggling with relationships in one form or another. In each of these conversations we spent quite a bit of time talking about the power of presence.
The only time you will fully be able to experience life is in the present moment. When you are really present you are not engaged in time travel to the past, or to the future. It’s the only opportunity you will ever have to experience this moment in real time – we often underestimate the value of that. It offers you the opportunity to learn, to be curious, to let your body lead rather than your mind.
There is a vast difference between physical presence and the quality of your presence. Both are important, however, the latter is where the gold is.
As you go into the weekend notice the quality of your presence with your kids, with your partner, etc. How are YOU showing up?
Have you decided how a conversation will go before you have it? Have you decided what your child’s behaviour will be before it happens? Are you on devices or otherwise engaged while having a conversation with someone else?
If you answered yes to any of these I encourage you to try something different. Go into a conversation with curiosity and no expectations. Notice how it feels for you. Maybe there is a lesson in there for you.
Being in the moment is being fully alive, experiencing life in real-time it’s all about the power and quality of being fully present. We all want to feel like we are being heard, that we matter. The quality of our presence is a great way to show our employees, kids, partner, loved ones, etc that they are a priority – that they matter.
It’s not just about others, it’s also a great way to gauge how you are showing up in your own life.
Much love,
Jessie-Lynn
Happy New Year

Happy New Year

“Dwell on the beauty of life. Watch the stars and see yourself running with them.” Marcus Aurelius

The first day of the new year always feels so fresh, like a big, beautiful canvas just waiting to be filled with your magic.

When I think back on the past year, it is like one big beautiful mess. It is a year that has rocked our worlds in so many ways. We have experienced such loss and grief on a global scale, tragedies that have impacted and united people around the world. Family and friends have divided over differing beliefs, compliance or non-compliance based on individual perceptions of their inner and outer worlds.

It has rocked people to their core, pushed people beyond their perceived edges of safety and yet when we take the time to dig deeper, there is so much more.

On the flip side, we have witnessed incredible innovation, potential, resilience, kindness, growth and we have witnessed people around the world coming together in the most beautiful ways.

I spent the morning reflecting on the things that both shaped and supported me throughout last year. I had to pivot my work as a self-employed, single parent when schools shut down in the spring. One of the most challenging things was not being able to see my Mom who lives in a retirement home that was in lock-down for several months,  the death of two family members, my son getting COVID and the subsequent challenges of continuing long term effects.

These events have shaped how I showed up in my life this year. I have been rocked to the core, experienced fear and sadness so intensely and spent a great deal of time being comfortably (and at times uncomfortably) numb.

Yet these moments were surpassed by an incredible outpouring of love and support from others, my relationship with my son is so strong, my mom’s home has been successful at keeping COVID out of the home, my on-line coaching continues to thrive with clients around the world, I have been able to continue my volunteer work with women and children who have been trafficked, I love coaching kids and teens and we had a great launch for our ‘It’s Good To Be Me’ workshops for kids and teens.

So. Totally. Blessed.

I decided to take some time last night to reflect on things I appreciate about the past year. I received a beautiful journal as a Christmas gift (I am a journal junkie). The quote at the beginning of this post is the one I chose to put on the first page. I spent the evening doing a 10 x 10 exercise (it sounds technical, but I just made it up). I highly recommend taking the time to do this, it’s a gift to give yourself as you start the new year.

Here’s how you do it:

Choose 10 themes (for me I chose things like Mom, Friendships, Knowledge, Health, Personal Life, etc) and for each of these things write down 10 things about each of the themes you appreciate. Sounds simple enough right? I’m only halfway through because it is a beautiful, reflective way to close out 2020. I think this is something I will do at the end of/beginning of each year.

I love how fitting it is that hindsight really is 2020!

Wishing you all a spectacular year ahead filled with much love, laughter and wonderful adventures.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

 

 

 

 

 

Parenting Outside the Box Workshop Series

Parenting Outside the Box Workshop Series

 

Join us for a small group online exploration of the potential of exploring parenting from a different lens.

 

There are times when we feel like being a parent is the most rewarding gift, and other times, it can test everything we stand for. We can feel out of our depth, overwhelmed and highly reactive. In those truly challenging moments, we might question our ability as a parent.

If you’re tired, confused or simply curious about different ways to approach parenting, we invite you to look beyond the box of traditional parenting beliefs, techniques and theories and explore parenting from a more curious, and open perspective.

This is an opportunity to join a small group of parents from the comfort of your home as we delve beneath the surface of parenting and consider what might be possible for you and your family. We will be exploring parenting through a different lens knowing that when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

Hosted by coaches Jessie-Lynn MacDonald and Michelle McCartan we will meet weekly online to connect, share, explore, and get curious. In this highly interactive workshop series we will explore:

  • Uncovering our unquestioned ideas about parenting

  • Navigating the emotional rollercoaster

  • Dealing with parental guilt and fears

  • Expectations and behaviour – parents and children

  • The wonders of communication

  • Creating wellbeing and resilience for all the family

We’ll bring this new parenting perspective to life by exploring your real-world parenting challenges enabling you to build a new foundation from which to parent now and into the future.

This is a time to share, explore and get curious about your parenting and relationship with your children. In this judgement-free environment, there will be a lot of opportunities to connect, reflect, engage, explore, and share.

WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT. Alongside the weekly workshops, you’ll receive extra videos, articles and audios that align with each step of our exploration as well as having access to your coaches for questions and clarity.

LIMITED SPOTS AVAILABLE. Our priority is to ensure you get the most out of our time together. We have decided to make this a very small, intimate group. If this sounds like it’s for you, or you would like to find out more, contact us and we’d love to connect.

SMALL GROUP ONLINE EXPLORATION STARTING TUESDAY 26TH MAY 2020.

6 WEEK ONLINE EXPLORATION- INTRODUCTORY PRICE OF £250 PER PERSON.

For more information please email: jessielynnmacdonald@gmail.com or michelle@michellemccartan.com

Happy New Year

Happy New Year

“Today Is The Most Important Day Of Our Lives.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

I hope you had a wonderful holiday season and are feeling recharged as we enter into a new decade.

Big changes have been happening over the past few months. In September of last year, I took the lead on an exciting new campaign in Canada – My Mental Health Rocks. This amazing campaign started in the UK is all about promoting wellbeing, resilience and raising awareness of our innate mental health and wellbeing in children, youth and teens. I’ll provide more details about that in a separate post.

This new role has taken all my focus and effort, as a result, I put The CPR of Life podcast on hold. I’m happy to be starting it up again next month with some fabulous new conversations focused on mental health and wellbeing.

For now, I want to share a few words with you as we enter 2020.

I see a lot of posts about resolutions, not having resolutions, what the new year means, etc. I wanted to share a few thoughts as we begin a new decade. Let this time be whatever best serves you moving forward in your life.

If it helps you to have resolutions go ahead and create a list, but leave room for the beauty of the unknown. Don’t get caught up in the anxiety of not meeting an expectation you created for yourself. If you have no desire to create a list then don’t.

There is so much magic in the unknown. Be curious, be open to new experiences, opinions, beliefs.

My wish for you as you start this decade is that you embrace your greatness. No-one can do you as good as you can, so you do you. Embrace all that you are beyond the stories you engage in – beyond the fears, the judgement and the criticism. You are a beautiful bundle of infinite potential.

Stop searching and start living. Often when working with clients they are striving for something, to be something, to have something. They are so focused on all the absence of things they are missing out on the most incredible gift we all have – the present moment. What about right now?

Be grateful for all that you are, you are enough, right now just as you are. Whatever you are searching for will not make you more amazing. I’m not saying don’t try to better yourself, to learn a new skill, etc. Just know that you are starting from a place of already being more than enough, just as you are.

Be more than kind to yourself, your inner being is always with you, it is the unique light that makes you literally one in 7.8 billion. Read that again, you are one in 7.8 billion! As you move forward in this decade embrace that unique statistic. Embrace all the things that make you so incredibly unique. Have more presence, find beauty in the ordinary, have amazing adventures and beautiful connections.

Cultivate the most extraordinary relationship with that inner being that is always with you. Ready to shine through the layers of judgement, criticism, the excuses, the stories. I promise you that it will be the most rewarding relationship you will ever have. It will be the most valuable way to spend your time as you move forward.

I wish you all much love, peace, gratitude, curiosity and presence as you begin 2020.

 

Taking The Fear Out of Public Speaking – Episode #34

Taking The Fear Out of Public Speaking – Episode #34

You can speak well if your tongue can deliver the message of your heart.” John Ford

Who doesn’t want to feel more comfortable speaking in public?

Whether presenting to an audience, pitching to clients or networking having a clear message is really important. In this episode, I chat with public speaking coach and the owner of ‘How to Present Training and Mentoring’ – Briohny Williams.

Some of the things we talk about:

  • Being grounded in your message;
  • Tips for presenting;
  • Public speaking isn’t just about being on stage, for entrepreneurs it about every interaction; and
  • Don’t hide, you have a purpose and a message – if you are in the service-based industry you are there to serve and help others.

Here is an important thing to remember: when you are speaking to an audience they are not there to see you – they are there to hear your message. Defining and refining your message is such a valuable investment of your time and energy.

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

  • Public speaking is much more than presenting to thousands, it’s about being clear in your message whenever you are interacting, networking, engaging with others;
  • Often fear of speaking isn’t about standing up in front of others, it can be fear of showing up, of having a voice, etc. tapping into this space helps address some of the reasons you may be hesitant to engage in speaking opportunities;
  • As entrepreneurs we often overthink the notion of the ‘elevator pitch’, an easy fix for this is to take a bit of time and prepare so that your message comes from a space of truth rather than a sales pitch; and finally
  • I like the analogy Bri mentioned about developing the skill of public speaking is much the same as when someone is mastering a craft whether that be an athlete, a musician, etc. There is much repetition, time and activity put into mastering their craft – once they do the work tends to become more effortless and there are many more opportunities on the flip side.

Briohny has a wonderful and very engaged FB group ‘Public Speaking for Entrepreneurs’. I highly recommend you check it out.

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You.

To listen to this episode on Podbean:

https://thecproflife.podbean.com/e/taking-the-fear-out-of-public-speaking/

To listen to this episode on iTunes:

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/taking-the-fear-out-of-public-speaking/id1438553484?i=1000450432172

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

To find out more about Briohny:

http://howtopresent.com

For more information on Briohny’s FB group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/presentationstoprofit/?source_id=168550113908668

 

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