Self-Love – A Discovery or A Journey? Episode 29

Self-Love – A Discovery or A Journey? Episode 29

You not only are loved, you ARE love.

What do you think of when you hear self-love? I have been having a lot of beautiful conversations with my clients about this. Like my clients, it’s also a journey I spent a lot of my life in search of. For many years I like so many people thought of self-love as a state to get to. What if you have been looking in the wrong direction? What if your journey is futile? I invite you to consider that YOU ARE LOVE. What if there is no journey to go on nor a place to get to?

In this conversation, my guest Phil Goddard and I are taking a deep dive into the topic of love. Phil is a romantic at heart who has written a couple of books about love. I was intrigued to hear more about his journey, why love and how he brings this into his coaching practice. 

In this episode we talk about:

  • Why Phil embarked on a journey to understand love;
  • What self-love is and what it is not;
  • Why life is more enjoyable and fun when we stop searching; and
  • The innate wisdom within every human being. 

This timing of this conversation was serendipitous as it echoed the conversations I’d been having with my clients. I have seen a change in Phil’s dance with the concept of love over the past few years. It was fun to have the opportunity to connect with him.

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

  • What would love do? It is a great question when you are stuck, struggling or unsure of something, reflecting on this question can bring more clarity about the situation. It’s the type of inquiry that brings out the best in us;
  • Love is something we define through our own personal lens. That lens changes from moment to moment. Knowing that love is an idea allows us to approach it in a lighthearted and fun way;
  • When we are feeling stuck, heartbroken, depressed, etc., it is a gift to share that this moment and more so the feelings are transient and will pass; and
  • I loved our discussion around the concept of self-love. When you are searching or embarking on a journey of self-love it is really a denial of accepting or embracing the love that is innate and lies within. 

To listen to this episode on Podbean:

https://thecproflife.podbean.com/e/self-love-a-discovery-or-a-journey/

To listen to this episode on iTunes:

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/self-love-a-discovery-or-a-journey/id1438553484?i=1000444273429

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You. 

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

To get in touch with Phil:

Facebook: Fbphil.com

Website: philg.com

The Power of Deep Listening

The Power of Deep Listening

“The practice of deep listening is the practice of open inquiry, without assumption or judgement.” 
― Sharon Weil

I’m excited to share this beautiful conversation with you. In this episode, I chat with the wise and wonderful Declan Stout, a caring human being with a big heart who is on a journey to transform many lives. We are talking about something near and dear to my heart – deep listening. 

Declan is the heart and soul behind Listen With Love – a beautiful space for people to donate their time to listen, and on the flip side, a free space for people to be listened to. 

In this conversation we talk about:

  • Deep listening: what it is and why it’s so powerful;
  • How to listen deeply;
  • The power of being present in a conversation; and
  • The innate wisdom within every human being. 

Have you ever wondered what kind of listener you are? I always thought of myself as a good listener until I learned about deep listening. When I did it completely changed everything in my business and personal relationships. It is a game changer. I used to want to solve people’s problems for them. I listened to point them to how strong, courageous and amazing they were. Sounds good right? WRONG!! Listen to understand, listen to give the person you are talking to space to find their OWN wisdom, listen with love. Thank you Declan for this beautiful conversation.

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

  • Deep listening is an incredibly powerful thing. It is not about listening to respond, affirm, negate it is about being fully present. 
  • What makes deep listening so impactful is the connection and showing up as an empty vessel;
  • There is power in the pause, when we don’t respond right after someone has finished speaking, we are giving them the space to find their own wisdom; and
  • Wisdom comes from both sides in a conversation. Let your wisdom guide you either as a speaker and a listener; 

To listen to this episode on Podbean:

https://thecproflife.podbean.com/e/the-power-of-deep-listening/

To listen to this episode on ITunes:

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-power-of-deep-listening/id1438553484?i=1000442993263

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You. 

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

To reach Declan: 

Website: WISDOM GUIDES: Home

FB Page: Listening with Love – A Safe Space to Talk @safespacetotalk

https://www.facebook.com/safespacetotalk/

Why Mental Health in the Workplace Matters

Why Mental Health in the Workplace Matters

It’s so good to be back. I took a break from the podcast to take care of some unexpected family medical issues and to dedicate my time to mental health awareness week. I have to say I have really missed the conversations and connections I have with my guests.

While mental health awareness week is over it’s so important to keep the conversation going. More so, to take the conversations forward into inspired action. In this conversation, Claire Russell and I talk about why mental health and why it is so important to include in the company culture.

We have a lovely chat about:

  • The importance of acknowledging mental health in the workplace;
  • Mental health affects us all, if you have a heartbeat, you experience mental health;
  • #time4action is about taking the conversation about mental to the next level; and
  • The wonderful work being done by the charity Samaritans.

I’m so grateful that Claire was willing to share such intimate details about her life. I’m truly inspired by her and everything she is doing to raise awareness about mental health.

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

  • I have to say this really hit home for me. Business leaders (and leaders in general) have a responsibility to make mental health part of the business culture. There is a huge ripple effect when leaders embrace this;
  • Many of us think we are immune to mental health issues. The truth is no-one is exempt from experiencing low moments that feel overwhelming. The secret is understanding that this is normal. It’s like a personal alert system that it’s time to take notice of how you are experiencing life in that moment;
  • There are many organizations doing amazing things. The organization Samaritans responds to a call every 6 seconds. There are two things that stand out to me about this statistic. Firstly, there are a lot of people who feel they don’t have someone they can reach out to. This is our humanity, this should be at the forefront of the news and we are all responsible to help address this issue. The second thing that sticks out to me is that organizations such as this one make a tremendous impact on society. I’m truly grateful they exist. And finally
  • For what purpose? This is such a great question, it’s wonderful to have conversations but ask yourself – for what purpose? There is always so much talk, it’s time to take action.

If you are curious to learn more about cultivating mental health and wellbeing in your business, organization or workplace please don’t hesitate to get in touch. I’d love to chat.

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You.

To listen to this episode on Podbean:

https://thecproflife.podbean.com/e/why-mental-health-in-the-workplace-matters/

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

To reach Claire:

http://www.mhib.co.uk/

To learn more about the amazing organization Claire volunteers with – Samaritans:

https://www.samaritans.org/

From Suicidal Ideation to Living a Spirited Life

From Suicidal Ideation to Living a Spirited Life

I am so blessed to connect with and have such beautiful conversations with amazing souls around the world. I never know what will unfold in my conversations and I love that. In my conversation with rebel girl and transformation coach Nicky Bartley, we talk about her journey from suicidal ideation to living a beautiful life.  

We cover a lot of ground in this conversation including:

  • Living a secret life with stress, depression, suicidal thoughts and attempts;
  • Even at rock bottom how you are always okay; and
  • When we peel back the layers of the inner critic the beauty of life unfolds.

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

  • When we create a story of low self-worth and not-enoughness we stay behind the mask. It’s such a heavy place to live. We limit ourselves because we believe the story we have constructed. If we live in this state for long enough it starts to manifest symptomatically in our bodies. When we allow ourselves to drop the mask, we see that the potential and possibilities are limitless;
  • When we are feeling off track or off-kilter there is information in that, as Nicky says, your feelings are like a personal alert system. I heard a great metaphor by Dr. Bill Pettit, he referred to our feelings as a personal bio-feedback system. Feelings are not to be avoided, changed, managed, etc. Feelings are a barometer to the quality of your thinking. Nothing more, nothing less. How powerful is that!
  • Trying to control and manage our thoughts and feelings is exhausting and keeps us stuck. When we let go of the need to control we move quickly back into the flow; and
  • A beautiful life is really simple, even when it’s complicated. The simplicity lies in understanding that life ebbs and flows, thoughts, feelings, experiences of life change moment to moment. There is nothing you need to do but be in the moment.

I’m grateful to know Nicky. She has a special gift and the work she does has an incredible ripple effect. I hope you enjoy this conversation.

To listen on ITUNES:

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/from-suicide-ideation-to-living-a-spirited-life/id1438553484?i=1000435281327

To listen on Podbean:

https://thecproflife.podbean.com/e/from-suicide-ideation-to-living-a-spirited-life/

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

To reach Nicky:

https://www.nickybartley.com/

 

The Journey to Wellness After Three Vicious Attacks

The Journey to Wellness After Three Vicious Attacks

This month I’m travelling the world vicariously with my guests. Today I am jet setting to Isreal to chat with author, coach and speaker Chana Studley. Chana and I met on a course on Mind, Brain and Body (fabulous course by the way). She survived three separate vicious attacks (rather mindblowing to think about the odds) which led to a period of time suffered debilitating PTSD and severe anxiety, in this episode, we talk about her journey to wellness. 

In this information-packed podcast, we take a deep dive into:

  • Surviving trauma not once, not twice but three times and our inbuilt resiliency;
  • How our body is like a personal alarm system;
  • What happens when we let go of our stories; and
  • The fascinating connection between the mind and body.

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

  • You are not your story. When severe trauma happens it is easy to embrace the story and let it define you. It can be difficult to let it go, and when you do, it opens the door to a whole new experience of life;
  • We are all born with an innate system that regulates our body. It is also there as a personal alarm to tell us when we are experiencing thoughts that take us away from our wellbeing. This innate system is such a gift. For Chana this personal alarm shut things down after years of being stuck in her trauma and afraid to leave the house;
  • Self-esteem is not hard-wired or even constant – it’s based on a story we tell ourselves and others. It feels true, however accepting it as truth and allowing it to define you is what keeps you stuck; and
  • The connection between mind, brain and body is fascinating AND life changing. By gaining an understanding of the mind and how we operate as humans we discover a way to tap into our wellbeing from an emotional and physical healing perspective.   

I hope you enjoy this conversation. It’s a deep one filled with many nuggets of wisdom.

To listen to the episode on iTunes:

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-journey-to-mental-health-after-three-vicious-attacks/id1438553484?i=1000434722417

To listen to the episode on Podbean:

https://thecproflife.podbean.com/e/the-journey-to-mental-health-after-three-vicious-attacks/

Happy Friday you beautiful souls. Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

To reach Chana:

https://www.chanastudley.com/

To learn more about Chana’s FB group:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/understandinganxietystressandtrauma/

To purchase Chana’s book (which I highly recommend):

https://www.amazon.ca/Myth-Low-Self-Esteem-Hollywood-healing

https://www.amazon.com/Myth-Low-Self-Esteem-Hollywood-healing/

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