The Secret To Living A Beautiful Life

The Secret To Living A Beautiful Life

“The thing that has made the difference in my life is letting life flow through me.” Jacquie Forde

Life is meant to be lived to the fullest. In this episode, my guest Jacquie Forde shows us what it is like to live a life of being unashamedly human. She’s a mischievous and lovely soul who is always ready for a laugh. From a professional perspective, Jacquie is a kick-ass coach and speaker focused on raising consciousness by sharing an understanding of how life works. She is also the host of a fabulous new podcast – Unashamedly Human. I highly recommend you tune in to her weekly chats. 

I loved my conversation with Jacquie. I wish I had pressed record on the pre-chat, we shared a lot of wisdom and giggles. Our conversation covers a lot of ground, some parts quite serious and others just fun. Some highlights from our conversation include:

– the power of not trying to fit into a round hole when you are a square peg, embrace who you are;

– the power of knowing that no-one is broken and no-one needs fixing; and

– life is much more enjoyable when we let life flow through us instead of trying to control, analyze or change our experience.

I hope you enjoyed the giggles and conversation. It was lighthearted but also full of wisdom.

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

  • Anyone who is struggling with addiction, self-harming, etc. is looking for a different feeling, it’s a misunderstanding about their experience of life;
  • One of the things we keep pointing to in this podcast is the power of understanding how human experience works. The evidence of sharing this understanding continues to be life-changing for so many individuals. Jacquie’s study with young women dealing with depression is evidence of this;
  • Memory is just thoughts carried across time. It’s not fresh information, it’s old information that may or may not be useful in the present moment; and finally
  • Every experience in life has something to show you.

Episode #7: The CPR of Life

https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-secret-to-living-a-beautiful-life/id1438553484?i=1000423546466&mt=2

If you enjoyed the show I’d be grateful if you leave a review of iTunes and share this podcast with your friends. Also if you have any comments or questions I’d love to hear from you.  

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

If you would like to learn more about Jacquie:

https://jacquieforde.com/

Empowering Women – Free The Girls

Empowering Women – Free The Girls

This conversation highlights the power of empowering women. It has such a massive ripple effect.

One of the reasons I started this podcast is to show the power of connection, potential, and resilience. This conversation exemplifies all of these qualities. In this episode, I have the pleasure of having a conversation with Selah Davenport, Operations Manager of Free The Girls, an organization that helps girls freed from trafficking live a life of freedom.

This is an area near and dear to me. There are many of us in the mental health and wellbeing industry who have much to offer in this area.

The world needs more of these conversations. The news is filled with what’s wrong in the world. Imagine what would happen if we focused on the amazing things individuals are doing in the world. When we focus on helping lift each other up, there is a ripple effect of goodness. 

Some highlights from our conversation include:

– the power of empowering girls after they exit trafficking and exploitation;

– the ripple effect of helping girls and women attain economic independence; and

– how donating gently used or new bras can make a tremendous difference in the lives of others.  

I hope you enjoy the conversation and feel inspired to help out in any way you can. If you have any comments or questions please reach out, I’d love to hear from you.

Until next time, be well, be inspired, be you.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

To connect with Selah:

selah@freethegirls.org

https://freethegirls.org/

To Get Involved With Free The Girls:

https://freethegirls.org/getinvolved/

Other links mentioned in the conversation:

Donate

Guidelines on Hosting A Bra Drive

Drop-Off Locations

Downloadable and Printable Resources

Newsletter Sign-Up

2015 Impact Report

2016 Impact Report

Blog – wonderful storytelling about our programming, program partners, women in the program and supporters

Program Partner in El Salvador

CNN story “Mozambique or Bust”

CNN story about El Salvador program

Stories of Freedom video

FB and Instagram

 

The Answer To Ending War

In this episode we travel across the world to Tel Aviv to talk to Stephanie Fox, Middle-East Director of One Solution Global. She’s a small town Minnesota ready to take on the world. Her passion for ending war and contributing to social change is contagious. I’m so inspired by the work Stephanie is doing. I think you’ll enjoy this conversation.  

Some highlights from our conversation include:

– the history of states and how humans politically organized themselves;  

– addressing some of the worlds larger and society’s smaller problems are easier than we might think; and

– the difference you can make in the world by following your passion.  

I was so inspired by this conversation. I am passionate about resolving conflict at the personal level, and this conversation helped me realize that addressing the conflict whether or a personal or global level starts at the same point. Please feel free to reach out with any feedback.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

To connect with Stephanie:

https://www.onesolutionglobal.org/p/middle-east

To learn more about the One Solution Conference:

https://www.facebook.com/events/199907907419262/

 

The Fountain of Youth

The Fountain of Youth

If you are searching for the fountain of youth look no further. In this episode, I had the pleasure of chatting with Dr. Leonie Morris, a psychologist, and coach focusing on the limiting beliefs around age and an all round amazing human being. Chatting with Leonie is like taking an elixir.  

Some highlights from our conversation include:

– where does happiness come from? Great news, it’s a LOT closer than you might think;

– the impact of how society views ageing and places in the world where ageing is embraced and the impact that has on longevity; and

– Leonie’s discovery of the Fountain of Youth.

I hope you enjoy the show. And please feel free to reach out with any feedback.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

  • age is a number – the negative impact comes when we view it as a negative chapter in our lives and on society;
  • vitality is within you. When you don’t view getting older as a major life event you are more likely to live a longer life;
  • our elderly populations are an under utilized yet incredible source and example of resilience; and finally
  • how children live is a great example of embracing life. They are spontaneous, they don’t carry around baggage or grudges and they live their lives with incredible playfulness. Sounds like the recipe for living a youthful life, no matter how old you are.

Thank-you for listening. I hope you enjoyed the show. Information about Leonie’s Forever Young Program as well as ways to connect with Leonie can be found in the show notes.  

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You.

To connect with Leonie:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/leonie-morris-58793030/

https://www.facebook.com/groups/HelpMeStayYoung/

The Power of Play

The Power of Play

In this episode I have the pleasure of chatting with the lovely Colette Reilly. Colette is a personal and business coach, a Director of Potential in Me, a ponder of big questions and a tea Jenny.

We talk about the power of play, both in our personal and professional life. When people are relaxed and happy they are more productive, creative and the work environment is much healthier. The power of play is undervalued in today’s society. Taking time to do things that are fun, relaxing and nurture your soul is never a bad thing. It has a ripple effect in our personal and professional lives.

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

  • Let’s take life a little less seriously. Play makes life and your career more enjoyable and more so it makes us more resourceful, it makes us show up better in every aspect of our lives;
  • Life is not that hard, making good stuff happen is not that hard. You need to decide what you want and take some action. Everything else is overthinking; and finally
  • At the end of the day we are not our thinking, we do not have to believe every thought that we think – this is also at the heart of my coaching. You will hear through these podcasts myself and my guests refer to the 3P or the 3 principles. In a nutshell, we are always and only living in the experience of our thoughts in the moment. We’ll be diving more into that in future episodes.

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You.

https://www.colettereilly.com/

http://potentialin.me/

 

You Are More Than…

You Are More Than…

I’m excited to release episode #2 of The CPR of Life Podcast.

In this episode, I had the pleasure of chatting with Rosalind Main. Rosalind is an artist, a body positivist activist, and a model. I came across Rosalind and her co-founder of I Am More Than on Instagram. Two Scottish models celebrating diversity in ALL its forms. I was inspired by their message and more so their passion. I think if we cultivate the passion in our youth there is the potential to create massive change.

Some highlights from this conversation include:

– the power of knowing when opportunities are not right for us when we listen to and follow our intuition bigger and better things happen;

– the size label on clothing has no reflection on who you really are as a person; and

– when you believe in something, you have the power to make a difference.

I hope you enjoy the show. And please feel free to reach out with any feedback.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

  • You are more than a first impression, your age, size, ethnicity, anything that could be seen as an obstacle. Owning it and being more than what that obstacle is. The obstacle is only in your own mind. Celebrate and own it.
  • When you realize you have nothing to hide and nothing to be ashamed about the world is such a brighter place;
  • There are many young people who are using their talent and voice to stand for what they believe in – they are the voice of our future; and finally
  • Just do what you feel is right at the end of the day, it’s the most important thing.

You can find Rosalind’s details as well as links to the BBC video and her art page below.  

Until next time: Be well. Be inspired. Be You.

I Am More Than Video:

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p06h3k5z

To Follow Rosalind:

https://www.instagram.com/rosalindmain/

https://www.instagram.com/rosalindmain_art/

The Power and Art of Perception

The Power and Art of Perception

I’m excited to release the first episode of The CPR of Life Podcast.

In this first episode, I had the honour and pleasure of chatting with Robin Lockhart. We went through coach training together and have a variety of common interests in our work. Among many other things, Robin is a professional youth and community worker, co-founder of Catalyst in the Community and Director of The Griffin Research Community.

Some highlights from this conversation include:

– the power of meeting people where they are. In particular the youth of today, who are the future of tomorrow;

– the power of showing up with no masks, just human to human; and

– the fact that solutions come from within.

I hope you enjoy the show. And please feel free to reach out with any feedback.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

Episode Notes:

Here are a few thought bomb takeaways:

– Young people don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.

– Solutions to the problems have to come from within, whether that be the person, the community, etc. You can’t impose solutions.

– When we have conversations one human to another human, instead of one mask to another, we get places.

Be well. Be inspired. Be You.

 

http://www.robinlockhart.net/

https://www.ted.com/…/ken_robinson_says_schools_kill_creati…

http://www.iloveyouthwork.com/

Conference Details – Livestream options available
Resilient Young Minds – A Revolutionary Approach to Wellbeing

https://www.tickettailor.com/events/theclayfactory/185546/

Wisdom Within Our Children

Wisdom Within Our Children

Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.” Chinese Proverb

My son came home from summer camp this week and complained about another boy in the group. It was the same conversation we had every day when I picked him up.

After dinner, we went for a walk and he brought up the little boy at summer camp again. I asked him to tell me something nice about this boy. He thought about it for a moment and told me that he was kind to a girl who was sad. After a few moments, he added a few more things to the ‘nice list’.

I asked him how it felt for him when he talked about the things that were wrong with this boy, and alternatively how it felt when he talked about the things on the nice list. He told me it felt better when he thought about the nice list. I explained that was his inner wisdom guiding him, showing him that focusing on the good things was much better than focusing on the bad. There is so much information in a feeling, not just for children but for all human beings.

We all have this wisdom. Some call it intuition, some call it a gut feeling or reaction, a sixth sense, or their guardian angel. It’s a gentle nudge (and at times not so gentle). It is our innate wisdom guiding us, like a lighthouse. Shining the light to guide us to wisdom. When we get quiet, that wisdom speaks to us, guides us. It’s a fabulous thing to teach our children. It’s a fabulous thing for all of us to understand. 

Have you ever felt that gentle nudge? Often we will try and rationalize away the wisdom. But just like my son, the right decision came with a good feeling.

As a parent I want him to learn about this wisdom now, to tap into it and listen to it as he goes through his life. Particularly as he approaches the teenage years when he will be faced with many challenging decisions. I don’t want to give my son a fish, I want to teach him how to fish.

Thought Bomb Moment: is there a conversation you have had with your kids where you could have pointed them to their wisdom? It’s never too late. Keep talking to them, keep listening to them. Keep pointing them to the lighthouse within. Our innate wisdom is always with us. Maybe there is an opportunity for you to listen to that gentle nudge. It’s never too late.

Be well. Be present. Be You.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

The Cost of Expectations

The Cost of Expectations

Unmet expectations are the root cause of so much conflict, disappointment, anger, and the reason for failed relationships – both personally and professionally. I have seen this with business leaders, parents, couples, and individuals I work with. What sort of expectations do you have of your partner, your children, your friends, your employees, your employer…yourself? Maybe you aren’t even aware of your expectations, but as humans we all have them.

Expectations quickly become problems when we hold ourselves, and others, to them without a clear understanding of what those expectations are, and both a clear understanding and agreement of all parties involved. I call this the expectation box.

Much conflict and broken relationships could be mended with the management of expectations, both of others as well as ourselves. 

“Expectations feed frustration. It’s an unhealthy attachment to people, things and outcomes we wish we could control, but don’t.”  Steve Maraboli

The reality of life is that we see the world through our own filter. No two filters are the same, there is a layer of personal thought and experience in between our personal lens and reality. No-one is immune from this.

When we understand the power of our own lens, and that our thoughts about how someone should be, think, or act is based on our own personal thinking life becomes easier. We are the creators of our individual reality. Expecting others to see life through our lens is setting ourselves up for disappointment and conflict.

This might be hard to hear, but you can’t change someone with your expectations. When we drop the expectation box and replace it with connected conversations and realistic expectations relationships become so much more real.

When we accept others for who they truly are, we also are more likely to show up in a more genuine way. Accepting people for who they are – embracing who we are.

It’s empowering to take responsibility for our own lives, our own choices and give those around us the opportunity to do the same. This is where life becomes fun, challenging, playful, frustrating. We are the creators of our own reality.

I love when my clients see this. Parent-child relationships, couples, personal and professional relationships all benefit when they stop trying to ‘change’ the other person, ditch the assumptions that the other person should know what they are thinking, expecting, etc. It also diminishes the notion of blame or responsibility on others.  

What about you? Do you have an expectation box – with yourself, with your partner, with your children, friends, etc? Are you comfortable having a conversation with them about what you expect, a clear understanding of what that entails and agreement on their part?

The reality is that conflict, frustration, anger, hurt, etc. could be drastically minimized if we exchanged our expectations for an actual agreement. An agreement creates clarity, a common ground, and understanding of expectations. 

Thought Bomb Moment: Think of a person or relationship that is causing you to feel unsettled, angry, judged, wronged, etc., ask yourself, what’s in your expectation box? Do you think the other party clearly understands your expectations? Are they in agreement? If not, maybe it’s time to ditch the box. Trust me, life flows so much easier when we let go of the box.

Alternatively, you can take your expectations and turn them into agreements. This is a fabulous way of taking relationships to a deeper level, one based on clarity, a common understanding, and agreement. The conflict, hurt, anger, and resentment will be replaced by clarity and a commonplace to move forward from.

Be well. Be present. Be you.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

Be You Campaign Has Launched!

Be You Campaign Has Launched!

“Lighthouses don’t go running all over an island looking for boats to save; they just stand there shining.” Anne Lamotte

I am thrilled to launch the BE YOU CAMPAIGN. It’s your time to shine! The first step in this journey is 1,000,000 connected conversations. You read that right – 1,000,000 connected conversations. 

Be You is a mental health and wellbeing global initiative to inspire women, children, and youth to connect with, embrace and be proud of who they are. To create a safe space to awaken, inspire and embrace the potential, and innate resilience that lies within.  

Be You is about being willing to dance with life and let it lead. It’s about showing up just as you are. No labels, no judgments, putting faith before fear. When we let go and give ourselves permission to live, without fear, without judgment we embrace the beauty of life, the beauty of knowing we are born with an innate resilience and wellbeing.  

There are three elements to Be You.

The first is about education – making conversations about mental health and wellbeing part of our daily practice. Making it normal to say I’m not okay, I’m overwhelmed, I’m sad, I’m lonely. Doing so takes away the stigma, and replaces it with a permission to live, to be who we are, knowing that thoughts and feelings ebb and flow, they are not static. They are part of life. It’s about understanding how human experience works. 

The second element is about letting go – of fear, of judgment (of ourselves and others), of attachment, of expectations, of labels, and in letting go we give ourselves permission to be who we are. We are more able to cultivate a kindness to ourselves and to those around us. It’s about making being human more acceptable.

The third element is about cultivating connection, with ourselves and others. Connection is at the heart of all relationships, whether personal or professional. Whether you are a parent, friend, business owner, teacher, doctor, politician…the foundation of living a life well lived lies with connection. 

 The Be You Campaign is the first step for creating a global community. One that embraces the three elements of the Be You platform.

What is 1,000,000 connected conversations? It’s a challenge, to highlight the humanness of being human and about cultivating connection. Life is busy, and more often than not we rely on technology and social media to connect. While that has many benefits, it also comes at a cost.

Our children, our friends and family members, colleagues and the elderly are feeling less connected, more lonely, depressed, anxious and isolated. This campaign is about cultivating connection, embracing potential, and recognizing resilience.

How? Through connection and conversations. The challenge is to reach 1,000,000 people through connected conversations. Making it okay for people to say “I’m not okay”, giving people a platform to be who they are, creating a safe space for people to awaken to their own potential and resilience.

Join me as we create, cultivate and awaken as a community where the only requirement is to show up – just as you are.

Signing up was the first step. You will receive a follow-up email with some suggestions on how to start this journey. Maybe you have ideas or suggestions. Join our community on Facebook. It’s a safe space to share, ask questions and connect.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/BeYou1000000/

I look forward to being on this journey with you.

Much love,

Jessie-Lynn

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